Today is Friday and I’m emotionally spent. As a CPA, you would think I spend most of my time working on numbers and spreadsheets but often times when I talk to clients, friends and business partners, what’s on their mind is not their financial statements but what is going on with them personally and how it is affecting their well-being and their business.
Our personal lives have such an effect on how well we can perform our job and run our business. I know times when I am having a bad day, it’s hard for me to stand up in front of others and sell our services. I’ve talked to good friends of mine this week that are going through personal struggles such as relationship problems, bad home purchases and sick family members. These personal struggles can drain your soul of creativity and that spark that you need to make it through your day. The emotional effects can last for weeks or months and can affect your relationships with others and your finances.
I have found that there are steps you can take to help you and your business make it through this challenging time.
Tell your employees and co-workers the situation if you can
If you are struggling to keep up at work, it’s likely others are noticing as well. Trying to pretend that you can still do it all when you can’t is just confusing to your co-workers if they don’t know what is going on with you. If you need to, take a day or two off and focus on you. We are all stronger on different days which is part of why you have a team. I saw this article about mental health days on Inc.com (Woman Takes Mental Health Day, the Internet Explodes) and thought it was a great example of what a workplace should be. Your co-workers know what to expect when you are at your best and will be supportive as you work through your situation.
Talk to others to gain perspective
When we are going through tough times, it can be difficult to think rationally about your situation. For instance, you might think that you can spend away your problem creating a financial disaster in the process. Lean on close friends, counselors and family for advice and don’t try to go at it alone.
It can be tempting to shut yourself off and internalize your problems. This compounds the effects of hopelessness and loneliness when fighting through these issues. Look for ways to stay active socially and physically. Exercise is a great way to relieve stress. It’s better to take out your issues through exercise than through other much less healthy avenues like drinking.
Start a journal
If you are having a terrible time reconciling your feelings, write them down. Sometimes transferring thoughts from your mind to paper helps clear your mind. It also helps you sort out your feelings so you can move on with your day.
Recovering from a terrible situation or loss can be so challenging and overwhelming at times. If you can follow these steps and find a way to make it through, you’ll be assured that you will be a stronger and better person moving forward.